The year is 2009. I’m a very young 37 years old, and I live in the trendy Lincoln Park neighborhood of Chicago. I am, what most people would call, a “Trixie”, due, in part, to my pedigree, as well as the geographic area in which I reside. I am an attorney, but I’ve paid my dues, no longer having to work those ridiculous young-associate hours. I have officially been “on the market” now for about 3 years since the demise of my marriage. Given that my traditional dating routine was clearly being met with utter disappointment, hurt feelings, and out-and-out failure, I decided that a pre-emptive strike was in order.
This is the story of One and Done. It is a memoir about the master plan I hatched in order to start dating smarter and more efficiently. Well, truth be told, I just wanted to stop meeting douche bags who were not right for me from the very beginning, yet for whatever reason, I proceeded to date them regardless. Hence, the need for a tactical strategy arose.
My plan entailed drastically cutting down the amount of dates I would go on with each guy. Down to just one. Yes, that’s it. One date per guy only. Ever. And my plan was to have as many first dates with as many men as possible, for a maximum of one full year. So, before I met him, before he uttered his first words to me, before he even asked me out, I met my date with the stagnant, preconceived notion that I’d never see him again after our one encounter. A true reversal of the legal theory of innocent until proven guilty. My date was culpable by default, until and unless he could establish he was not the jerk I presumed him to be.
Armed with this plan, I went on a total of 43 dates in just over four months. All of them One and Done. Lucky number 43 changed the course of my plan — and ultimately my life — forever! “One and Done” recounts some of the most memorable dates leading up to, and including, my final One and Done, and they are nothing short of entertaining. Through flashbacks, there is insight into my past, and the many reasons (i.e., men) which led me to the decision to begin to date this way. “One and Done” is peppered with tangential tales involving my female comrades, as they see me through this admittedly off the wall approach to dating!
“One and Done” is available for preorder on Amazon for Kindle on June 20, 2015. Preorder your copy today!