Monday — The Week In Review (Literally)!

Hello!  And sorry for the brief absence from blogging :(.  I think I got very caught up in my yearly love affair — with Summer ;)!

Just wanted to throw a couple of tidbits of information out there for you.

First, I’m going to run a “flash sale” on OAD this week — dropping the price from $11.99 to $6.99!  Well, I have to figure out how to do it first….but once I do, it’s on!!!!

Next, I have a favor to ask of you.  Yes, you.  :).  If you have been gracious enough to read OAD, could you kindly, please, pretty please with a cherry on top, take 2 minutes to leave a review on Amazaon, B&N or Goodreads?  People really do read reviews  when deciding whether to buy a book.  And whether it is good, bad or ugly, I would absolutely welcome it.  Although, let’s be honest, I would prefer a good review, obvi! :)!  Just kidding, (sort of)…Anywhoo, a review of some kind would be greatly  appreciated!

Thank you all for checking in, and feel free to refer a friend to pick up a copy of OAD this week while it’s on sale :)!  Happy Monday!

Tuesday is for Thank you!

Hi everyone!  I wanted to devote this post today to giving thanks.  More often than not, I believe we lose sight of the things in life we should be most thankful for on a continuous, daily basis.  Whether that is your loving family, your furry dog or cat (or other furry or non-furry pet), your health, your job, friends, or the roof over your head.  Wake up every morning, and acknowledge those things you should be grateful for, rather than starting the day by complaining about the things you don’t have, or wish you had, or wish were different/absent in your life.  We are lucky in many more ways than not, and we should always remember that someone has it worse than we do, and we likewise could be in a worse situation as well.

This was definitely a mindset I adapted when I embarked on OAD.  I had to be most happy with myself and my life before I would be able to open up my heart and let someone in.  I had to be the best “me” possible, otherwise, who would want to be with me?  If you think about it, it makes sense.  Would you want to hang out with someone who is always complaining, down on themselves, bitter, or otherwise unhappy?  I’m not talking about the longstanding friendships you’ve built in life, as those are meant to withstand the test of time and change.  I’m talking about a new relationship with a potential partner.  Why would anyone want to embark on a journey with someone who doesn’t seem to love themselves?  How, in turn, would that person be able to love another?

Often times, it’s that sense of self that we either project, or detect in another, that gives insight as to whether we move forward in a “relationship”.  And believe it or not, it really does start with being grateful for everything you have in your life, and giving thanks.  You will project that positive image to everyone around you, and in turn, people will gravitate to you for that positive energy!  After that, everything falls into place :).

So as part of my “thanks” mantra today, I am thankful for all of you who have picked up a copy of my book, read it, reached out to me to congratulate me, tell me that you LOVED it, reposted links and blog posts, posted a review, or have supported me in any way, shape or form.  From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!

As a side note, many people have been asking where they can post a review of OAD.  If you’d like to do so (and for this I would be over-the-moon-grateful), you can post a review directly on my Amazon Author’s page here:

http://www.amazon.com/Lisa-Bevilacqua/e/B00ZBLMA2E

Or on Good Reads here:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25729657-one-and-done?from_search=true&search_version=service_impr

Thank you all for checking in, and I hope you have a splendid day :)!!!

Hey! Look! It’s the very first review of OAD!!!!

Happy Thursday everyone!

So, my fellow Chick-Lit writer/blogger/critic Bernadette Maycock has posted a review of OAD. You can read the review here on her Blog:

https://brmaycock.wordpress.com/2015/06/23/one-and-done-by-lisa-bevilacqua/

Which brings me to my next point….I would love, love, LOVE for you to post a review of OAD when you’ve finished the book — it would mean the world to me! You can do this directly on Amazon.com, Barnesandnoble.com, or Goodreads.com.

I know I promised some goodies this week, but I’m experiencing problems with one of the freebie sites :(.  Also, this week just flew by!  I can’t believe it’s Thursday already?!?  And next week is already the 4th of July?!?  Aaaaaaaaackkkkk!  Where is my summer going?!?

Better get your summer reading on before it’s fall!!!

So it’s Tuesday….not much to say about Tuesday….

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Doesn’t it seem like every day of the week has it’s own “personality”?  Everyone hates Monday, that goes without saying. Wednesday is hump day, and that’s all I’m going to say about that. Thursday is almost — but not quite — Friday and many times “bar night” given it’s proximity to the weekend.  Friday marks the end of the work week for many, and is therefore very celebrated. Saturday needs no introduction, it just is.  Sunday = Funday —  family gatherings and relaxation in order to gear up for the new week ahead.

But what about Tuesday?  Poor thing!  It really has no defining characteristics that make it stand out from the other days.  Nothing “exciting” ever fall s on a Tuesday (well, except maybe RHONY is on — yay!).  Tuesday.  It’s just….blah.

So, in order to liven up Tuesday, I’ve decided to ask you all a few questions for feedback!  Ready???  OK!

How many of you would really  like to see OAD in paperback?  Would you be more inclined to buy it?

Are there any other popular forums besides Barnes & Noble and Amazon where people buy eBooks?

What do you think about doing book promos where the author reads a chapter of her book to a captive audience, then does Q&A?  Or signings?

What do you think of combined promotions — ie., books and wine?  Or books and a new clothing line?

Well, that’s enough to stir up some discussion, I think.  Now I’ll just post some pretty pictures of fabulous summer shoes for you viewing pleasure…..Happy Tuesday!!!  xoxoxo

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Flashback Friday!!! Look –> there are pictures here!

Happy Friday everyone!  So, lot’s of people who have started reading OAD have asked me for pictures of JT and I.  Ask and you shall receive!  Since it’s “Flashback Friday” I’m posting a couple from our early years together and one from our wedding ;).

Also in honor of “Flashback Friday” I’m posting a pic of my college roomie (Stella) and I, since she’s coming to NYC this weekend for a long-overdue visit!  We have grand plans for this weekend, and I’ll be reporting on our activities on Monday :)!

Have a great weekend everyone, and be sure to check in on Monday for updates and some promo and giveaways (as promised)!!

xoxoxox

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Thursday is here — only one more day until the weekend!

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Hi everyone!

So many exciting things going on this week!  It started with the official release of OAD on Amazon and Nook.  Thank you to all of you who have purchased my “baby”!

Then a flurry of congrats, questions, blogging and <welp!> interview requests — yay!  Exciting times indeed :).

I’m happy to announce that OAD is now featured on Good Reads.  Take a look:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25729657-one-and-done?from_search=true&search_version=service_impr

I’d LOVE some reviews and feedback once you’ve finished it.

Next up:  Be on the lookout for book promo events and giveaways, hopefully coming next week!

One and Done? Why? And, why?

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Happy hump day everyone (snicker;))!

In case any of you lovely readers missed this, here is my “guest blog” post which appeared on fellow author Fran Clark’s blog on Monday.  Here are links to her blogs, and my original post below.

http://franclark.blogspot.co.uk/2015/06/author-interview-with-lisa-bevilacqua.html http://rosatemple.blogspot.co.uk/2015/06/guest-post-by-lisa-bevilacqua.html

Happy reading!!  xoxoxoxoxo

ONE AND DONE?  WHY? AND, WHY?

When I was totally in the weeds and writing my book, “One and Done”, I was frequently asked the following questions:

What led you to develop this strategic dating plan? And,

            What motivated you to write a book about it?

My answer was always this:

Because I wanted to take control of my dating life (i.e., to quit choosing to date douchebags and other inappropriate suitors). And,

It was a cathartic way for me to share this successful strategy with others. 

Even though I’m married now, and that part of my life is behind me, not a day goes by that I don’t discuss some aspect of dating with any number of my single girlfriends. It seems as though everyone is on their own quest to find “The One”. This tenant has been ingrained in many of us from the time we were little girls. From Cinderella and Prince Charming, to Ariel and Prince Eric, women have become so obsessed with this fantastical theory, that every time we go on a first date, our very first thought is, “This could be THE ONE”.

Don’t even try to deny it – you know it’s true. Now, with on-line dating becoming the new “organic” way to meet people, often times, this notion overcomes us even before we’ve met our prospective prince! We begin to daydream about romantic dinners a deux, amorous excursions to exotic locations, and so on. All of this even before our first encounter!

But, if we think about this logically, how often does “The One” come around? In the literal sense, exactly once. That’s why the odds are that the dude you just swiped right for on Tinder is not your Prince Charming. Realistically, he’s probably not someone you’d ever do a double take for while venturing on your daily coffee run, much less date for an extended period of time.

But for some reason, 100+ text messages later, once we’ve settled into that chair across the table from him, had our first sip of bubbly champagne, and have begun to engage in conversation, we start to mold him – like clay – into that image we had of him feeding us fettuccini in front of the Roman Coliseum on our honeymoon. We overlook the fact that he may not have graciously allowed us to order before him. Or that he has been constantly checking his phone for messages since we sat down. And hasn’t asked even one substantive question about us.

Why do we do this? Why do we ignore the obvious signs that this guy isn’t “The One”? Perhaps it’s because we’re afraid of ending up alone. Or, quite simply, we’re bored with the single life and want to have a constant companion to do fun, couple-y things with. Whatever the reason, the fact remains that when all is said and done, we end up dating a guy who, if we were completely honest with ourselves and objective about our true feelings from the onset, we likely would not have accepted a second date with.

And now, three months later, after he’s mysteriously dropped off the face of the earth, we’re left perplexed and hurt.   And angry.

We’ve just wasted irreplaceable time on a guy we’ve now deemed “unworthy” of us, and the cycle begins again.

What did we ever see in him in the first place???

I blame Cinderella and Ariel. Because every first date we have, cannot possibly be with the likes of Charming and Eric. It is statistically impossible.

So, rather than thinking, Maybe he’s the one, before every first date, why don’t we go into it more logically by stating, He’s NOT the one, and I’m never going to see him again after tonight because (insert all of his transgressions here – and be honest – which you will inevitably discover after said date)? If we go into a first date with the anti-romanticized notion that the guy is more than likely not, “The One” for us, then we become more aware of our standards and much more objective in terms of our general opinion of him from the start.

For me, establishing this mindset gave me much more clarity. It was as if I had just wiped my grubby eyeglasses with a dose of reality. Routinely, on date #1, I immediately became inherently aware of every single thing my date said and did, and constantly checked in with myself to determine whether I liked it or not. Was I offended when he lingered looking at my cleavage a few seconds too long? Was I annoyed by the fact that every time I embarked on a story or anecdote, he immediately attempted to “one up me” by inserting a tale of his own? Could I live with the fact that he laughed like a hyena in distress? If the answers to these questions were, yes, yes, and no, then he was done.

At 38, I didn’t want to waste any of my time (or his, for that matter) trying to mold this guy and this could-be relationship into something it clearly was not, and would never be.

So what is the moral of this Unfairy Tale? Be realistic about who you’re going to meet on date #1, and don’t ignore the obvious signs when your prince turns out to be a frog.